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Get Your LIFE @ SisterDivas Magazine! November 3, 2008

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Over @ SisterDivas Magazine’s LIFE column, we’re talking about beauty secrets, fall wines, job searches, and modeling and music!

Fall and winter seasons lead to several holidays. Beauty expert Debora Routhe joins ALL THAT GLITTERS columnist Melodye Shore with her latest article, BEAUTY SECRETS FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON!

Many people love fall – the colors of nature grow vibrant, and the weather gets cooler. What better time to sit some place warm and take in a glass of wine? L. Denise Jackson, better known as The Sipping Sommelier here @ SisterDivas, gives us her choice wine selections in her latest column, Fall Wine Tips during the Recession—Part 1!

This issue, SD welcomes Roxanne Ravenel – author, podcast host, and job search coach. Take a lot inside Roxanne’s life, and read her article, How Working Mothers Can Prepare for a Successful Job Search.

Everywoman Nicole M. Stevenson interviews another everywoman – singer, model, writer, inspiration Sharon Quinn who talks about her career and her passion!

Head to SISTERDIVAS now (at LIFE) to check out our interviews and articles!

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Fall 2008 Issue of SisterDivas Magazine is LIVE! October 19, 2008

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and Italian songstress Romina Johnson!



This issue of TOTAL BODY – Dr. Cherry explains to us why it’s important to have a PERSONAL BOARD OF DIRECTORS in our lives!



In Episode Five, Destiny anticipated her date with Devon and got much-needed love, support, and advice from her mom.

NOW, in EPISODE SIX, Destiny goes on her date with Devon and finds herself surprised with the outcome; on the flip side, Sharay decides that one fine man that caught her eye is worthy of more attention!


Devon took silent steps toward Destiny’s door, peering through the small opening.

“Good,” Devon said, his voice lowered. “After that, we can do whatever you want.”

Wow, Devon thought as Destiny slid her skirt and stockings off before stripping from her blouse. Devon’s breath caught in his throat as he inwardly oohed and aahed over the curvy frame of Destiny, the way her gold lace bra brought her ample breasts up and out and her matching panties clung to the full roundness of her hips and backside.

“You’re awfully quiet,” Destiny hollered, moving to her closet to remove a pair of black slacks and a gold silk blouse.

“Uh…well, just letting you take your time getting ready.”

“Aren’t you just the gentleman?” Destiny chuckled. Devon felt a tightening in his groin as he watched a scantily clad Destiny dress and slip on a pair of trouser socks before pulling on her black leather ankle boots. Softly groaning, Devon stepped away from the door and made his way over to the loveseat, sitting with a frustrated plop.



Over @ LIFE this issue, we have plenty to dish out – beauty tips for the holiday season with All That Glitters columnist Melody Shore and her guest Debora Routhe, modeling with Sharon Quinn, job searches for working mothers with expert Roxanne Ravenel, and wines for the fall/winter seasons with The Sipping Sommelier, L. Denise Jackson!



@ Relationships, we’re focusing on the relationship with self by featuring author Monica Marie Jones and her novel, The Ups and Downs of Being Round, a coming of age story about a girl who struggles throughout her life with issues of weight.



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TAGGED: Six Random Things about MOI October 8, 2008

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I’ve been tagged by Susie Hawes,

Her twitter link is

Six Random Things about MOI

1. Whenever the Olympics are on, I pretend at least once a day that I’m on the podium receiving my gold medal, too.

2.  I’ve practiced my acceptance speech for the Oscar I will win for best original screenplay.

3.  Whenever I have really good dreams or thoughts, I sit around, obsessively acting them out until I find a “point” to them.

4.  I can’t wait to “loose” myself from my siblings and be a brazen single gal!

5.  I have written several good (and bad) stories and poems about the one who has loved me and hurt me the most.

6.  I want to hear the person I crush on say, “I want you and only you.”

And now I’m tagging these friends who may either post six random things about anything at their own blogs, or post here and relate their comments to reading and writing, or both. 😉

Here are my six.  You can follow these people on

The rules to play are easy and you should copy them to your blog…

1. Link to the person who tagged you.
2. Post the rules on the blog.
3. Write six random things about yourself.
4. Tag sixish people at the end of your post.
5. Let each person know he or she has been tagged.
6. Let the tagger know when your entry is up.


I Laugh at Your Thought of Killing Me September 27, 2008

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“For these reasons the Jews seized me in the temple and tried to kill me. Therefore, having obtained help from God, to this day I stand, witnessing both to small and great, saying no other things than those which the prophets and Moses said would come – ” Acts 26:21-22, NKJV

To the one called Devil,

Now, I laugh at your thought of killing me. You’ve tried so many times in the past – used so many people to trample me, to destroy me, only to see me rise yet again, brighter and better than ever.

You used my father against me before I was even born. He didn’t want anything to do with my mother or the bastard seed, me, that grew in her. For years, I would wonder what I missed about myself, what part of me was him, and then I realized that my true Father was there before that human thought to lie his way between my mother’s legs.

You used my stepfather against me to be that living breathing example of a horrible man so that I would never want to deal with men, never want to have a relationship with men for fear of them turning into a drunken shell of a man who used fists and words to control. But you didn’t know that He had my back and provided me with a grandfather that all men should emulate, that He provided me with uncles that would show me how real Black men act. You didn’t know, most of all, that He was the only man I truly needed because He would show me all the goodness that my stepfather did not and could not possess.

You used my cousin’s boyfriend’s friend against me to take from me – with force – my most special gift: my virginity, and by him doing that, I traveled down a dark path of self-destruction, low self-esteem, self-hatred, and loneliness. You thought I was through. Hell, I thought I was through, too. We BOTH forgot that He was there, beside me, inside me, growing, moving, pushing me forward when I couldn’t lift my head let alone my feet to move out of the darkness.

You used my ex-boyfriend against me to seal the deal in my hate of men by having him love me, by having him make me fall head over heels in love with him, by making me believe that love could come my way, that I – broken woman – could find love just for me, and then have him tell me I wasn’t good enough – that I bored him. I’ll admit it. I’ll give you props. You obliterated my very core. You sliced through arteries; you bled me out with this. For a lifetime of pain inflicted upon me by men would culminate to this point as I was just shy of my 30th birthday. You made me realize that I would have to be alone – that no man in his right mind would ever want me. And I believed it. And I lived it. And I breathed it.

And I pushed Him away. After all this time, after all this life, after all this existing, again, I was hurt, and this time, I was ready to die. I was ready to simply exist in a world where love was something I would see for others and never for myself. And I lived that life for years, feeling the yawn of loneliness, the ache of hysterical solitude dwell within me.

And then I fell into Him again. And one day, one typical, normal morning, as I brushed my teeth, He whispered in my ear, “You are beautiful. You are everything wonderful that I could make. No one shall ever take away the strength that resides in your pinky let alone the marvelous vessel that is your body.”

I heard Him. I saw the shine in my face, the glow in my cheeks, the spark in my eyes, the upward curl of my mouth, and I knew…and He did, too, that my death on earth was over, and your time of trying to kill me had ceased – indefinitely.

But you’re good – you’re so good at dismantling lives and driving people away from the Light, away from the beautiful lives that could so easily be theirs if they only believed.

You did it to me.

And you continue to try to do it to me. You see me believing in love and wanting love now, and you hit me with hate from my family. You see me flirting at a guy or having whimsical dreams, and you hit me with career issues. You see me trying to look cute to attract attention, and you hit me with rejection letter after rejection letter.

You see me overcoming one of the biggest obstacles in my life – my love for self – and you know that the minute I truly conquer it, your reign is over, for I shall prosper in everything once I have love of self and the love of someone else.

And I know you won’t stop. You can’t stop. You hurt like me, too. You’re lonely, and you’re angry, and you’re hateful, and you’re spiteful, and if you can’t have everything, then no one can have anything.

I get it. And I know you won’t stop.

And just so you know – I won’t either. I won’t stop because I’m fighting for my life and my destiny, and now that I know and I believe that no weapons shall prosper against me, there’s nothing you can do.

I won’t bleed for your enjoyment anymore.


Teen Pregnancy? Are You Writing a Book on IT? September 20, 2008

Filed under: life,the writing life — Shon @ 4:31 pm
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I have an author/pubber friend who is looking for someone who has written or is in the midst of writing a book on teen pregnancy.  She’s looking for quick turnaround on the project because she wants to see it out in early 2009.

If you are…or know someone who is, reply, 🙂


Write What Matters to You September 4, 2008

Filed under: chicklitgurrl,life,the writing life,writings — Shon @ 1:59 pm

There are those who write for the masses.  It may not have been a lifelong dream to write…it might not have been a necessity to study the craft of writing.  It might not have been a topic that was of real interest to the writer, but he/she wrote to SELL and sometimes, when that is governing the writing process, you lose yourself as the artist, and you cater to the public (or, more exact, the publishing house).

There are those who burn to write.  There are those who can, with pinpoint accuracy, tell the story of the first time they smelled a sharpened pencil or put pen to paper and were enraptured by the experience.  Studying what’s been written before and what’s written now is important.  Understanding where they fit in within the literary world is important.  And while it is important to write something that people want to buy, it is – in my opinion – more important to write something that MEANS something to you, the writer.

If I didn’t care about what I wrote, it would be crap.  I know this.  It might sell, and it would probably sell well, too, but it would always be crap to me.  There is an authenticity to works that matter.  There is an uniqueness to works that matter.

It is important to first – before checking out publishing houses to see “what’s hot” and trying to fit into the mold – to check out YOURSELF and see what matters to you.

Family matters to me.  Relationships matter to me.  Love matters to me.  Faith matters to me.  Those things we don’t like to talk about in public matter to me.  Overcoming matters to me.  Taking the small step into becoming everything you’re supposed to be in life matters to me.  A world that is not just black…or not just white matters to me.

These are the things that are reflected in my work.  These are the things that reflect me.  These are the things that – I believe – others care about to some extent, too.

It’s not necessarily about writing what you KNOW about because I don’t know much about a lot of dark subjects, but I plan to research them because I want to write about the things that scare me, that we don’t talk about in public.  It’s not necessarily about writing what you know…it’s about writing what resonates in the essence of you – those things that you hold dear, that you want to study, that you want to embody with words.

When we do this, we truly become a part of the writing process, and there will be a reader who will become a part of the process, too.

Despite what publishers say about what will or won’t sell, I believe we can market anything to sell – if done correctly.  We’re so big on just wanting to keep pushing out the same ol same ol that we as readers keep getting a plethora of the same type of book – sometimes the same daggone book with names and locales being the only real difference.

When you write something that goes against the grain, you have to develop the query and the synopsis, and the pitch that goes against the grain, too.  You have to build a package that is ALL or NOTHING.  You have to pitch as if your work’s very life is at stake – because it is.

Don’t worry about whether a house will buy your work; worry about if you could stand to have others read the work and attribute it to YOU.  In the end, the words reflect you; if you write for others, you may sell, but you’ll forever be attached to the project.

Write something that you can be proud of.  Write something that leaves a mark of you in the world.  Write something that others can connect with.

Things like this – and that pertain to writerly subjects can be found @ ChickLitGurrl on Writing:


Beating the Devil August 27, 2008

Filed under: life,writings — Shon @ 11:46 am

This was my daily BLESSING OF TODAY blog from my MySpace page:
Felt the need to share it over here, too, because I could have written a book JUST on this today.  I hope you get something from it.

Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.– Matthew 4:1 – NKJV

The devil loves to hate us, and he loves to do so at two moments in our lives – when we are most vulnerable and right after a victorious moment.

We get into an argument with our spouse or boyfriend.  We lose a job.  A best friend back stabs us.  We take ill.  We watch our loved ones suffer.  We have a bluesy kind of day.  We have 50-11 things on our agenda for the day and know we can only get two of the things done.  We listen as our child screams, “I hate you” for the first time.  We see our bills outnumber our cash flow.

Anything can put us into a weak moment.  Sometimes, you can’t even pinpoint why you feel blue or down – you just know that you do.

Now flip all the things I stated above in reverse.  Your hubby surprises you with a vacay – sans the kids.  Your boyfriend proposes.  You’re recognized for your hard work on the job and get a promotion.  Your best friend splurges for a girls’ night out.  Your health is perfect.  Your loved ones prosper.  You wake up with a smile on your face and the thought, “I’m gonna rock this day out.”  You have 50-11 things on your agenda, and you have enough energy to do yours and somebody else’s to-dos.  Your child peeks his head into the kitchen just to say, “Hey Mom, I love you.”  Your promotion and your talent and gumption allow you to pay your bills [on time!], keep money in the bank, and buy a few nice things just because.

The devil loves to hate us during ALL OF THESE TIMES.

The minute there is a crack in your soul, he pounces, ready to fill that crack with despair until the crack widens, and his poison inundates your entire being.  He loves to whisper doubts into your mind.  He loves to sweet talk you with past transgressions that you’ve worked hard to overcome.  He loves to caress you with those skeletons you’ve tucked into your closet nice and neat.

The minute there is jubilation in your life and you say, “Thank you, God,” he’s there, smiling, waiting to immediately rock your foundation so that you can say, “Why can’t my happiness last longer than a minute.”  He’s there, waiting to make you say, “Why even try to be happy when something bad lurks right around the corner.”  He’s aching to destroy your victories so that at the end of the day, you just say, “Forget it.  There’s no point in trying.  You want me?  You want me broken?  Fine.  You got me.”

This is why we must stay the course.  This is why we must continuously have God first in our life, looking toward Him for guidance, utilizing His ways in our life.

We must be vigilant.

We must be tireless.

We must be survivors to what the devil wants to accomplish.

He wants us in that wilderness, like Jesus.  He wants to tempt us like he did Jesus.  He wants us to falter like Jesus did not do.  He wants us to succumb like Jesus did not do.

But he can’t have us.

He won’t have us because we’re God’s children.  Because Jesus is our Lord and Savior, and because we have them in our lives, no weapon formed against us – even by the devil – shall prosper.

We are more than warriors.

We are conquerors.

And we can most certainly conquer the devil.

This doesn’t mean that all our days will be sunny.  This doesn’t mean that we’ll never want to give up.  This doesn’t mean the tears will cease falling.

What it does mean is with the most powerful Father and Son, we can persevere, we can move past, we can move on, and we can reach our destiny and glory – despite all the obstacles that try to take us down.